How to Lose Weight in Your Cheeks
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First i want to say that i am so sorry for your lose. I know what it's like. I was not put into foster care and i had two loving parents who raised me BUT i my oldest brother passed away in a car accident when i was 18 and my dad passed about 5 years after that. It has been over 3 years since my dad passed. I am now 27 years old. Just wanted to let you know that on the subject of pain and suffering and losing people in your life, i and many others know how that feels so never feel like you are alone. Because of that and also because you know the one who cares for you the most anyone could...God. Just because your mother was not a loving person toward you, and just because you didn't have a good relationship with her, and just because she was really no "mother" to you at all, does not mean you should not mourn her death. It just means you may mourn in a different way or for different reasons then others. You will/can mourn the fact that you never had her for a mother at all, and that because she was the way she was you never got to experience the relationship with her that anyone would want to experience with their own mother. You will/can also grieve for the fact that she lost her life never getting to know you or God. You sound like a beautiful person. I'm sure you have your flaws as we all do but you have a good heart, and i know that because of what you have written here and because you know God. It's sad that she never got to and never wanted to know you. She missed out. Because you have a good heart you will mourn. Not because she was ever a mother to you but because you have a kind heart and because you care for others and love others even when they in no way treat you with love. That is only one of the good things about knowing God. That's the kind of heart His children have, caring for others when they don't even care about you. As His child that is how you should be, and amen that you are :) You can grieve and you should because if you don't those feelings you choose to bury will come back to haunt you, trust me on that because i have been through that. So grieve, but don't let your sadness control you and your life. Find a constructive and Godly way to grieve and at the same time move on. I know it's easier said then done but as long as you are looking to only one who can really give you the comfort you need (God), then He will get you through it. You don't need to know exactly how He'll get you through, and you don't need all the answers, all you need to do is trust Him with it all. As for your sister... It sounds like the coldness your mother may have had in her heart, ended up causing coldness in you sisters heart and i am sorry for that. For you and for her. When people treat me badly for no reason, or find pleasure in trying to bring me down i honestly have learned to turn what once would have been anger or hate toward them into sadness for them. When people act that way and others react back at them with anger and hate, i try to tell them not to let their coldness affect them personally because we have no idea what they have been through. Obviously what you and your sister have been through is tragic. You are blessed to have come out of it all with the warm heart that you have, and you are blessed to know the Lord. Your sister on the other hand didn't come out of it with the warmness that you have and for that you should feel sorry for her. It is NOT wrong at all that you care about her and treat her with love when all she does is treat you with hate. That's how you should be as God's child. He blessed you with a warmness that she doesn't have and for that you should be thankful and for as long and as mush as you possibly can you need to try and pour that warmness out on her no matter how she chooses to treat you. That could make all the difference in her life and in her heart in the future. That doesn't make you weak in any sense..it makes you strong. The fact that you can treat others with love when they treat you with hate is a strength not a weakness. Keep going with that and never give it up. Be a good example of God to her and to others around you and you never know the difference that could make and you never know where it could lead them. If it never fully reaches them in the way it should or needs to, then at least you know you did right by God and you were the strong one. You treat her with love and you grieve for your mother and you pray to God about all of it. Seek His help and His comfort. He is the only one who can give you the comfort you need. If you want to talk more, i'm always free. Don't hesitate to email me anytime. I am so sorry for what you are going through but i trust God as should you, that He will get you through this. I'm praying for you. God bless you!!Other Answers:
- Ask him to give you peace I will pray for you tonite.
- Everybody dies! Praying doesn't work.
- Pray. Listen to some relaxing music (look it up on youtube). Drink some tea. You need to unwind. It was your mother, of course you will grieve. - whether she was a nice person or not - you will always have that connections - mother/daughter. We all grieve in our own way, so I'm sure whatever happens will be the 'normal' for you. You may cry your eyes out and not want to get of bed at first or you may NOT. You will go on with your life and just accept it as is.
- Pray for strength for yourself and others who are grieving the loss.
- I'm sorry about your confusing mix of emotions and your loss. If praying gives you comfort, then by all means pray. If you need to pray for something specifically, then pray for comfort and peace and understanding.In a practical sense though, it's natural that you're confused, and hurt, even though this woman was not a large part of your life early or later in her own. But don't worry. Time has a way of putting these things in perspective, and allow you to accept what was, and what will be.In a more immediate sense, if you want to do something that will make you feel better, have a good cry. Then go for a long walk. Don't talk on your phone or text while you're walking...just walk as if you have to get somewhere. Physical activity like this has a calming effect on a troubled mind. Doing this daily may increase the desire to do it daily, even when you're feeling better emotionally, and only good things will come of that.Be strong and take care.
- Mourning isn't for the dead, it's for the living. Mourn.
- I guess it's hard for some people to believe what you are saying because you do not seem to be reacting like a typical person would in such a situation (I lost my dad who was also in a nursing home last year and would have never thought about coming on the internet to talk about the situation----I was also in shock and burst out crying and was too preoccupied with the whole situation to come on here and say a bunch of different things). If you are indeed telling the truth, I can understand that your situation would be different than mine----but I would suggest you talk to other family members or even a counsellor=====if you can, I would also suggest you go to the funeral (no matter how strange that may feel). I strongly doubt anyone here can give you all the answers to the complicated situation you are writing about here.
- You don't pray to Jesus , you pray to God in the name of Jesus ,just like Jesus said for us to do. If you notice in the bible after Jesus died, the apostles always prayed to God and never to Jesus.Only God should be prayed to and worshiped.
- Yes, grieve. You are grieving already. Let it out. You have a right to your feelings, and you have a right to mourn.It seems you've been through a lot of cr*p with your family. That doesn't mean that you don't love them or that you have no affection or feelings for them. Of course you do.How do you pray to the Lord Jesus about this? Get alone in your bedroom and let it all out. Tell him everything: good, bad, and indifferent. He can take it. Also, it may be comforting to you to read Psalm 23 in the Bible. Many people read it when a loved one has passed away. Now that I think about it, read about how David dealt with the death of Saul, who tried to kill him. It's in the first chapter of the Book of 2 Samuel.Talk to someone at your church about this. As a new Christian, I hope you have a pastor, counselor, or good Christian friend or adviser that you can trust. I'd also recommend you see a counselor or therapist to help you cope with a ****load of family issues. You were dealt a very bad hand, and God knows this, and in spite of all that, God is for you.I'll pray for you. May you find comfort in the arms of God and in the good thoughts and words of compassionate people.Addendum: if you want to go to your mom's funeral and can't afford to go, ask your family members to see you through and pay your way. This is a one-time thing, and I hope that they will see your need to be there and will want and need to have you there. Possibly your church may have a fund for this kind of situation, and they might help you financially, too.
- Sounds like you are already grieving her death. Keep doing it, let it out. If you hold it in, it will make things worse. You apparently have some feelings for your mom, and that is great. Things have not been good for you, so accept the good things you do have, your feelings for your mother. You need to have closure, to accept that she is gone, and that you did have some feelings for her, regardless of how she felt about you. I don't know what happened to cause the bridge between you, but let it go. If you pent up guilt and blame yourself, you will only make yourself suffer more. Your mom is gone now, and that is that. Let your feelings for her show, cry and let it out. But DO NOT hold in guilt, she is gone, guilt will NOT solve anything afterwards. As a Christian, you must keep your Faith in God. He is NOT here to help us, He has given us the ability to help ourselves and others. We are here to not to seek His help, but to prepare ourselves for the After Life. THAT is the goal we must keep. Remember Jesus died, not giving up His Faith. This shows us, that we too can do the same, even under horrible conditions, and that we too, can be in Heaven with Jesus and God. Keep the faith, no matter what. And mourn your mom, if that will comfort you. She is gone, she does not need comforting, but YOU do.
- Father God, I come humbly to you to ask for peace, comfort and to thank you for all the blessings you have given me through out my life. Please help me to understand what is happening to me and to give it all to you for I cannot handle it, but You can. Please take this heavy burden and give me yourcomfort and your love. I thank You for what you will do and I ask in the precious name of Jesus, Amen.
- Hi, MingChong-First, I am so sorry to know that your mom has passed away. You really cared for her and for what was going on in her life; to care like that for a mother who was distant from you is really love. From what you wrote, you loved her very much. Sometimes when someone dies we grieve for what might have been and for what could have been. Maybe that is you; I know that has been me and that makes the pain all the more intense. Your concerns about what happens between you and your sister shows how much you care for her also. Never give up on reaching out to her; love does conquer all, especially when we know Jesus Christ to be our source for that love.My only relative, my brother, died in June this year. He suffered greatly from mental illness and he and I were separated from each other for over 30 years. But we met again 1-1/2 years ago so I have those memories to add to photos from our childhood. I made a photo album and put my treasured photos and wrote my memories of us in it, but that's not a lot of pictures, and the album seemed empty. So here's my thought for you: I decided to make a photo album of my entire life and put it in the album I had made of my brother and me. Writing about each photo as though I was explaining each one to him made me forget at times that he was really gone. I just wanted to tell him everything that I could remember of my life for thirty years. And while he can't enjoy it with me now, I offered it up to God with all my tears as a thank offering to God that one day I will see my brother again and we will pick up where we left off. So I pray now for you in this really sad time and I pray for your relationship with your twin sister. May God wrap His loving arms around you and may He give you peace and comfort and lovely memories of your mom and sister. I ask Him to fill you with happy memories about your total life and fill you with wonderful expectations about what He still has in store for you in your future. May you know that He cares for you and loves you unconditionally, and He desires joy and happiness in your life with Him. May His wisdom lead you to know what the right decisions are for a relationship with your sister now and in the future. And finally remember that you are loved by the Creator of the universe and that all your brothers and sisters in Christ love you too.His blessings and grace to you-
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