Husband on me about my weight often?

Every 3 or 4 months hubby picks on me when I gain 5-10lbs. I'm not fat. I'm healthy. I workout 2-3 hours a day 4-6 days a week. Sometimes I do 2 workouts in one day & I count my calories/watch what I eat. I'm 39 yrs old & have always worked out. I'm 5'5 weighing anywhere between 155-165 but I have a lot of muscle from years of lifting weights. Usually around that time of month I get really bloated & it's also been more difficult to lose weight. Hubby makes comments like he wishes I was small like my mom, how I look big sometimes or how I need to go to the gym & sit in tbe sauna longer. Hubby is an ex boxer & tries to tell me how he trained to lose weight so he could fight in a certain weight class. I told him I'm not a boxer & I'm not training to fight. I workout for myself & because I enjoy it. Everything is like a competition to him. He even told me he wants to have the finest wife out of all his friends. Image seems to be a huge deal to him but yet I feel like he is also insecure. Anyone else deal with spouses that pick on you about your weight? If so what do you do?I forgot to add he does tell me I'm beautiful almost every single day. He compliments me regularly. He brags to all his friends & family about me often. He is very loving & affectionate but if I gain even a little weight then he's distant with me & makes stupid comments. We have had serious talks about this even met with church couple peers. He stopped for a while but starting his BS again.I also don't look like 165lbs because of my muscle mass.All of my friends have told me I look great. I have had strangers try to guess my weight & they say around 135. I would like to be around 145 but like I said it's harder to lose weight than when I was in my 20s

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Your husband sounds very insecure about himself and he sounds very mean ( i want to say something else but won't out of respect). It sounds like you've had enough conversations and have stood up for yourself during those conversations so he knows how you feel. He obviously does not care. Abuse comes in many forms and emotional abuse is no exception. It is his job to make you feel beautiful and loved, not to tell you that you are not good enough and need to keep working for his approval. If that was the case, then why did he marry you? I"m sorry, but if I were in that situation and we've had our talks and he continued to belittle me (kids or no kids), i'd pack up slowly and one day he'd come home with a note on the counter saying "since i'm not good enough for you, i'm going to leave so you can marry a model. Divorce papers are underneath, please sign in the proper places and return them. Thank you and have a nice life." The reason why i say this is because he talks all this trash but he is still with you so you're right. he has a problem, but why should you be his punching bag for him to fix it. Your decision but I'd leave. A man talking to me like that will make me think he's going to cheat on me and I won't stand for that nor stick around to find out. Bless you and good luck. I'm so sorry.

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• As long as you work out for yourself and feel happy about yourself do not let his comments ever get you down. If he has a problem with it, screw him! He should be lucky he has a wife that works out, most don't. Keep doing you honey
• 5'5 and 165 is a big girl. i'm not saying fat, as I never saw you, so i can't say. of course he's insecure if he's picking on you, but maybe he's not totaly wrong, but it's wrong to pick on you. just one thing is for sure - he's not happy when you gain weight. you can't blame him for that.
• At 5'5" and 165 you are not petite. The question is; how much importance do you put on your husband's opinion of your looks? If you tell him to like it or lump it, he will probably do the latter. Diet could play a part; less protein and more produce. I have recently started eating two salads a day plus fruit and have lost about 10 lbs. in a couple weeks, and I feel better. I still eat meat, but I find I crave it less.
• read what "Miss" has said..well spoken
• Could it be that his just be picking on you ?
• What happens if you have kids, don't have time for hours at the gym and end up with a flabby stomach from carrying babies.Maybe you won't be the trophy wife that he longs to keep. Is he going to stay with you even if you do get ugly in your old age?We all change over time - I just hope he realises that. And I hope he doesn't start the comments daily if you can't sustain that perfect figure.I think he needs a reality check - he needs to stop focusing on looks only and realise there is a lot more to a person than outside appearance.I don't know how you cope with being told you are beautiful every day - sorry, that would just make me sick - I wouldn't want to be only valued as a woman because I looked good every day. I don't know how you are going to keep up with his high expectations.
• He doesn't sound like he will ever be happy with how you look. He is very shallow to be that way with you. Remind him one day he may very well not be the weight he wants, age creeps up on us all.

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When you are losing weight, you should exercise and diet together.If you exercise without dieting, you will get bigger appetite, whichwill lead to increase of weight, or muscle growunderneath the fat layer, and make you bulkier. If you diet withoutexercising, you will become flabby and will have excess skin. Fordiet, go wheat free. No pasta, pizza, bread and so on. And no foodafter 7 p.m. People achieve marvellous results with it. Depending onyour initial weight, you can drop upwards from 20 pounds a month. Ifyou don't eat wheat then you don't eat all those sticky, fatty goeycakes, you don't eat junk food, and you don't eat biscuits. But yourdiet is still balanced. It costs nothing, and you do not have tocalculate points or to buy special meals or plans. For exercising,start with walking, and then switch to running/jogging. Running is themost efficient and calorie-burn exercise ever. If you are overweight alot, walk first or you may have health complications (heart attack,disjointed bones and so on). Weight lifting is a good means to targetyour problem areas for men and women. It's not necessarily to become abodybuilder or even join a gym - a couple of dumbbells will help youto target your problem areas (stomach, butt, legs, arms, chest).

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• Have patience.-Drinking a daily total of about 64 fluid ounces (8 cups) of cold (preferably refrigerated) water, at regular intervals.-Drink fruits and vegetables juice.-Drink between 6 to 12 glasses of a special mixture of lemonade, cayenne pepper, water, and maple syrup each day.-Have cabbage soup diet.-Less salt in your food.-Go to sauna.-Go for some exercises like squat, push ups and pull ups. Also go for jogging early in the morning in empty stomach. Also try to run at a speed.-Do not skip your meal. Eat Healthy less oily food with low spice.
• Swim everyday and eat 5 small meals a day
• What only what nature makes. Lift weights. Workout on empty stomach. Consume fewer calories than you burn. Get lots of sleep. Only drink water for fluids. No juice. High protein, low carb diet. Eat plenty of vegetables. If you do eat carbs, only eat before or after workout. This is strictly important. Have one cheat day a week. Eat anything but don't binge. Long story short this will reset hormone levels. Only carbs is brown rice, potatoes, yams, &oatmeal. No white stuff bread, milk, rice, etc.If you do want to get calcium, drink only almond milk. Get your healthy fats in. Nuts & omegas such as fish oils.That all cost me $1000 to learn & to charge my clients.Good luck
• For weight loss, dieting is more effective than exercise. Reducing your intake of junk sugar will help as in items 22 and 106 in http://www.rheumatic.org/sugar.htm The natural sugars in fruits are OK as they are metabolised to glucose slowly due to their high fiber content. Fruits are low in calories and are not fattening. Most fruits are metabolism boosting foods and most vegetables as well and that helps for weight loss.
• Run to the library and get a dictionary and look at the difference between the word "loose" and "lose."

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Avoid junk food, fast foods, pastries, desserts, anything with sugar (cancer cells feed on sugar), gluten, syrup (even canned fruit in syrup), peanut butter, fat/grease (pork, wieners, chops, bacon, salami, pizza, chips, fries), pasta, potatoes, ramen, popcorn, white bread, rice, canned veggies, ice cream (it's lard + chemicals), soda (loaded with toxins), chips, tobacco, alcohol (kills brain cells) and coffee (carcinogenic). No oil except olive and mac nut. To keep your skin clear, drink water, tea, unsweetened veggie and fruit juice. Join a gym; they have all the equipment and staff to show you how to use it to get the look you want to achieve, but you have to ASK them. Much cheaper than buying your own equipment. Go hiking, biking, jogging, bowling, swimming, rowing, jump rope, play tennis, badminton, volleyball, soccer, jumping jacks, lift weights, trampoline? To tone your tummy, do sit ups, push ups, pull ups, leg lifts, butt raises and crunches.

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